Why You Shouldn’t Say “Quit Acting like a Baby”

It’s 2020! Are you ready to kick some butt? Well, get off yours, quit crying like a baby, and do something already!

Oh dear, the motivation police have entered their peak season. I once appreciated this type of peer pressure from the grownup world of success. For a long time I believed that we just needed to stop crying and start doing.

The problem is, though, even after I listened to the big life coaches telling me to stop crying and act, I could not stop ruminating.

Disclaimer, I don’t necessarily think “stop crying, start moving” is bad advice, I think it’s wrong advice when we pair it with the “you’re acting like a baby” insult.

Maybe I’m a defensive mother but it’s a given that babies cry. Low-blow. It’s how they communicate because they lack complex ways of expression.

From my experience, babies may cry a lot but not much. What I mean by that is babies will usually cry often but not for excruciatingly long periods of time (unless there is a severe problem).

Let’s look at the most basic illustration:

Baby tries to stand up. Wobbles. Hits the ground. Cries. Two minutes later… Baby tries to stand up. Cycle repeats.

Baby may not express her frustration in an intelligent way, but baby is not afraid to express it. And just as soon as it is communicated outwardly to herself and her parent, the tears are dry. She’s confident enough to go on again.

By this model, I think we need to start acting like babies.

We need to recognize the angst and desperation that comes when we fail or when we hurt ourselves. We need to cry it out to the Lord, our Heavenly Father.

Instead, we suck it up to please the grownup world of success…until we are home. In our own home of disillusionment we cry for hours, even weeks and months and years about the same mistake because we wouldn’t release it in the moment.

Babies are teaching us something about crying frequently but briefly instead of crying rarely but prolonged.

Maybe we need to dumb it down because babies aren’t actually throwing major life fits. The big adult who lives in ego preservation refusing to let things go but still pretending everything is okay for the sake of “just doing it” is the one in a real fit.

Faking feelings blocks us from growing. Quit acting like an adult, my friend.

As adults, we pity-party our way into failure instead of baby-crying our way out of failure.

Watching my daughter attempt to defy the laws of gravity over and over is my biggest motivator right now. She’s determined to reach a new height regardless of her record 28 failures per hour.

There are things you and I want to do that defy the trajectory of our shortcomings.

To that, I say start acting like a baby.

Move, fall, cry for a minute and move again. 

Galatians 6:9
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

With love,
Mama X


Moxie (noun): force of character, determination, or nerve.

This is my fifth installation for Moxie Monday. I started Harvesting Hope as a way to contrast life struggles to the more powerful hope. I’ve found courage in sharing my story (see my early posts) and want to keep that going by sparking the flame in others. These Monday posts are motivational in essence to start off a great week!

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