Yesterday, I read a blog post from a psychologist who was arguing that you can’t be “too positive” all the time. I guess he received commentary because he goes out of the way to remove negative comments from his site. It’s actually funny, this world seems to support positivity and motivation until it’s a consistent part of somebody’s character. When the good “vibes” become part of somebody’s personality, the world gets bored. The positive person’s life is no longer entertaining when they’ve managed to keep up the great physical and mental health.
Society wants to be happy until it’s time to be happy. We want all of psychology’s shortcuts and cheat codes. You know, all the mysterious answers about creating and maintaining a perfect life.
“What will motivate me into working harder?” “How do I stop procrastinating?” “How can I be smarter?” “How do I stay calm when things are going horribly wrong?” “When I have all of these things, then I will be happy.”
I have noticed, just on my small Facebook community, that people were supportive when I first told my story. Now, I hardly get any feedback. Stability is boring, what can I say? But…When I was coming to the light and leaving the darkness of my past, I got a lot of support because everyone got a taste of my drama. Haha, I hope that wasn’t it. If I shared anything inspirational, people loved it and some even thanked me for being honest and optimistic. Those sweet messages encouraged me to continue spreading goodness. From these messages, I learned that people have a hard time converting negatives into positives and they appreciated having somebody to relate to. I was happy to be that person.
In math, you convert a negative integer into a positive integer by multiplying it against another negative integer.
-2 x -2 = +4
In real life, you just hold tight and hope for the best… No. No. No.
I feel that I have maintained a sense of optimism about life and it’s either made me unrelatable now or people just don’t care anymore. Do I stop now because I get no feedback? It can be discouraging because I love opening up conversation and sharing the cheat codes.
God has helped me maintain optimism and He doesn’t let the tough times totally stress me out. I didn’t convert and lose all trials and tribulations. Ha, I wish… I am still going through trying times, even though I am not speaking about them. There are weak moments where I cry or get angry. But they never last long because those are the moments where I remember that I have a God to call upon. And He always answers (even if it’s not what I want to hear).
I give all credits for my optimistic strength to the man up above and sometimes people just don’t want to hear that.
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.
This frustrates me… Because I am a human and my patience has its limit. There is something so lazy about people who love to complain, nag, hate life without even attempting to make it better. And it’s always the people who perk up at the idea of motivational living, then sit back down when they realize that it’s a daily practice. Daily practice means you don’t give up in spite of inconvenient circumstances. Daily practice means being able to put your muscle to the test when something unlucky happens.
Daily practice means praying when things go south. Exercise that muscle of faith! It gets stronger with every pump.
How can you expect to succeed in life when you look at successful people and diminish their perseverance? How can you expect contentment to enter your life when you’re not letting Him in?
You can’t be too positive all the time. Trust me, you need the water that we’re drinking. You’ll never thirst again.
“But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”