You can only be so positive…

Yesterday, I read a blog post from a psychologist who was arguing that you can’t be “too positive” all the time. I guess he received commentary because he goes out of the way to remove negative comments from his site. It’s actually funny, this world seems to support positivity and motivation until it’s a consistent part of somebody’s character. When the good “vibes” become part of somebody’s personality, the world gets bored. The positive person’s life is no longer entertaining when they’ve managed to keep up the great physical and mental health.

Society wants to be happy until it’s time to be happy. We want all of psychology’s shortcuts and cheat codes. You know, all the mysterious answers about creating and maintaining a perfect life.

“What will motivate me into working harder?” “How do I stop procrastinating?” “How can I be smarter?” “How do I stay calm when things are going horribly wrong?” “When I have all of these things, then I will be happy.”

I have noticed, just on my small Facebook community, that people were supportive when I first told my story. Now, I hardly get any feedback. Stability is boring, what can I say? But…When I was coming to the light and leaving the darkness of my past, I got a lot of support because everyone got a taste of my drama. Haha, I hope that wasn’t it. If I shared anything inspirational, people loved it and some even thanked me for being honest and optimistic. Those sweet messages encouraged me to continue spreading goodness. From these messages, I learned that people have a hard time converting negatives into positives and they appreciated having somebody to relate to. I was happy to be that person.

In math, you convert a negative integer into a positive integer by multiplying it against another negative integer.
-2 x -2 = +4

In real life, you just hold tight and hope for the best… No. No. No.

I feel that I have maintained a sense of optimism about life and it’s either made me unrelatable now or people just don’t care anymore. Do I stop now because I get no feedback? It can be discouraging because I love opening up conversation and sharing the cheat codes.

God has helped me maintain optimism and He doesn’t let the tough times totally stress me out. I didn’t convert and lose all trials and tribulations. Ha, I wish… I am still going through trying times, even though I am not speaking about them. There are weak moments where I cry or get angry.  But they never last long because those are the moments where I remember that I have a God to call upon. And He always answers (even if it’s not what I want to hear).

I give all credits for my optimistic strength to the man up above and sometimes people just don’t want to hear that.

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

This frustrates me… Because I am a human and my patience has its limit. There is something so lazy about people who love to complain, nag, hate life without even attempting to make it better. And it’s always the people who perk up at the idea of motivational living, then sit back down when they realize that it’s a daily practice. Daily practice means you don’t give up in spite of inconvenient circumstances. Daily practice means being able to put your muscle to the test when something unlucky happens.

Daily practice means praying when things go south. Exercise that muscle of faith! It gets stronger with every pump.

How can you expect to succeed in life when you look at successful people and diminish their perseverance? How can you expect contentment to enter your life when you’re not letting Him in?

You can’t be too positive all the time. Trust me, you need the water that we’re drinking. You’ll never thirst again.

John 4:14
“But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”

With love,
Mama X

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I am a Hopemade Woman because I hope for the promise of life through Jesus. This hope is what drives me! I am a creative romantic with big dreams of successfully merging the homemaker life, the blogger life and a spicy dash of the entrepreneurial life. What can I say? I like to juggle and that is okay--I am learning at all times, as you'll soon find out. I blog to share this hope with other women and mommas.

16 thoughts on “You can only be so positive…

  1. This world needs more positivity, salt and light.

    You are doing God’s will by encouraging others to step out of their comfort zone.

    It’s easy to be dismayed and defeated, but it’s all worth the temporary sacrifice for eternal goodness.

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  2. ❤ “There are weak moments where I cry or get angry. But they never last long because those are the moments where I remember that I have a God to call upon. And He always answers (even if it’s not what I want to hear).

    I give all credits for my optimistic strength to the man up above and sometimes people just don’t want to hear that.”

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      1. Likewise! We are doing fairly well. A lot going in | in the world, in our home, etc.! However, grace abounds and we are doing well! Hope you and your family is doing well.


  3. This is one of my favorite posts . I often use this blog as a tool in my own journey . Into acheiving the career I hope to peruse I’ve typed it into many other peoples phone In hopes they would read one or two . I appreciate the knowledge and I filter out what I need and what I should teach . I appreciate that I can turn to this blog to help others . I thank god for showing me how stupid I was being finally gave me the perspective I needed to get off of laying on the tracks and jump on board .

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  4. It always comes back to Jesus Christ. Like you, without Him I’d be . . . I don’t know what I’d be, but it wouldn’t be *me.*

    Having happiness be the goal is also misleading. Purpose should be the goal, and happiness derives from that.

    Also, I think I know which psychologist blogger you’re referring to . . .

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    1. Always always!

      I totally agree, chasing happiness is like chasing waterfalls. It’s not a goal or an attainment, it’s an emotion we can carry.

      I find that contentment comes from purpose, those two support each other when we find ourselves in that meaningful mode of living. Being “positive” is largely being active in our lives. Rather than letting it run us.

      (Ahhh he’s got many followers, I wanted to link the post, but I couldn’t find it)

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  5. I’ve been practicing positive thinking for three years and honestly.. I still get stressed, drained, angry, sad and emotional. Like you stated in the post, when I get into these states they don’t last forever because I built a positive happy emotional base, so when I do get into these temporary negative states, I easily become aware of this, and I could take practical steps to get back to my happy positive baseline. Cardio exercise and eating healthy helps me a lot, as well as certain natural herbs such as Ashwagandha. I think acceptance of the negative in our life is important, but it’s also important to understand the dangers of dwelling in negativity.


    1. I find exercise to be great for prevention but the fastest way for me to get out of the funk is to pray. Stress will never not exist so it’s important to have an emotional stability plan in order. Staying on top of the circumstances


  6. Well – Another Hit & Home-run!
    This one flew out of the ballpark.
    I feel like, I’ve been the one at times being negative. I truly found that being positive about situations has a way of making them work out for the better (most times).


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